The Politics of Parenting (includes some algebra)


I am the type of person by nature that avoids confrontation. Don’t get me wrong it is not due to fear, it is due to remorse. There is a line in the movie You’ve got mail that always sticks in my head. Tom Hanks says about telling someone what you think about them. The line goes… “I must warn you… when you eventually have the pleasure of saying the thing you want to say at the moment you’re wanting to say it… remorse eventually follows.”


I have been in the situation hundreds of times where I felt like saying something to someone, and yet I bite my tongue. Who am I to judge? I am the last person to think myself better than someone else. Yet why do other people find it so easy to pass judgment? In this case fellow parents.


I have 3 groups of parents I interact with. Work parents, Neighborhood parents and Online parents. All of us have different ways of raising our children. Do I agree with everything other parents do? Nope. Have I learned some good parenting ideas? Yes. Have I told other parents that I liked certain aspects about how they raise their children? Yes. Have I told other parents that I dislike certain aspects about how they raise their children. NO!


So when someone makes the comment that they think my wife and I spend too much money on our child it drives me crazy. What is “too much”? Is our house filled with toys? YES! Did we buy him all those toys? Alas, no. Here is a math problem. (The algebra mentioned in the title)




A = Allowance – $10 a week. He does VERY well in school, has chores at home he almost always remembers to do, always asks my wife and I if we need help with something, and takes really good care of our pets. For a seven year old I am amazed.


B = Only grandchild on wifes side.


C = Only grandchild on my side.


D = Only nephew on wifes side


E = Only nephew on my side


F = Ebay. I Ebay. I Ebay A LOT! My son knows what Ebay is and how it works. When he tires of a toy he has me sell it. He then takes the proceeds and buys something else.


G = Thrift stores. My Ebay travels take me to thrifts store. So if see a shoe box filled with Pokemon cards for $1 I buy it. For $1 the look on his face is incredible!


H= Cash Hoard. At any given point this kid seems to have more cash at hand then myself. This is a combination of math components A,B,C, and F.


I = Parents. Yup, me and my wife. If I actually figured out how much non-allowancegrandparentauntuncleebaythrift money we spent on my son I just might be called a cheapskate. Shhhhhhhhh.


So does my son “get” more than other kids. Some yes, some no. Do other kids have things, or get to do things he does not? Yes. Could I spend a few paragraphs talking about things I see or hear other parents do that I do not “approve” of? Yes.


Will I? No.




Because when you eventually have the pleasure of saying the thing you want to say at the moment you’re wanting to say it… remorse eventually follows.



(although) Brian, I think a Playboy subscription for a preschooler is NOT good parenting.


Sarah Palin takes the fun out of winning.

 Sarah Palin takes the fun out of winning.


Let me just say that I am a competitive person by nature. Spending a large part of my younger years with one older brother and 3 older cousins on a daily basis taught me to revel in wins. Which seemed at that age to come few and far between.


Current annoyance to others around me: Mario Kart. When I race against my wife or a fellow Husband/Dad that lives on my street I CANNOT stop the smack talk. It just happens. I turn into an ass.


But I enjoy it.


That is why now that McCain has picked Sarah Palin as his VP I am bummed. There will be no smack talk. There will be no gloating. This is going to be too easy. President Obama. It will ( thank god) be how we are referring to him in a few months time.


Even if I picked just one reason why she is not the right choice I could spend all day on it. However I am just not that interested in learning more about her. She is pretty much the x-ray version of how I think. She stands for it, I am opposed. She is opposed, I am for it.


Imagine for a minute that McCain wins. 72 year old McCain. Sarah Palin would be one breath away from being the President! Seriously! PRESIDENT! That thought alone should be enough for any person NOT to vote for McCain!


But lets forget that scary part for a bit. Let me instead give you a couple reasons why I feel this way.


  1. Sarah Palin is Pro-Life. I am Pro-choice.

  2. Sarah Palin is against gun control. I am for it.

  3. Sarah Palin is currently under investigation for allegedly firing a state official that refused to fire a state trooper who just happens to be her sisters ex-husband who she is currently going through a custody battle with. (that run on sentence reminds of Ferris Buellers day off)

  4. She has repeatedly hired former lobbyists to help her met her political goals. (lobbyists are the worst thing in politics EVER)

  5. She preaches NO sex-education in schools other than abstinence (I disagree with it) while her 17 year old daughter is about to have a shotgun wedding. Is this like a picking a marriage counselor who is on their 3rd marriage?

  6. Her speech last night had SO many incorrect statements in it I have no idea where to begin. Do a Google search Palin speech fact check

I could go on, however I need to order lunch. All I know is that this presidential race has just become boring. Obama will win. The country will start to move in the right direction. And I can save my smack talk for Nintendo DS.


I will leave you with a cartoon I found this morning that made me laugh. (Also made me scared if anything happens to Obama before the election)